“I matched with a guy whose first message was something like ‘you want to come to the best NYE party ever?’” she tells me. “Of course I said yes, that my friend and I had no plans. The guy seemed kind of full of himself, but he and his buddies ran a hedge fund out of an apartment on the harbor. We got creepy vibes from the (main) guy, but we had each other’s backs, and we met a ton of cool people at the party. Plus we were on a balcony with views of the opera house and the harbor bridge.”
Instagram is the stealth dating app you’re already on
Don’t overlook Instagram as a great way to meet people abroad with whom you have a ton in common. The romantic pressure is lower on social media than on a dating app, and profiles are often a more genuine and accurate portrayal of a person’s looks, interests, and personality.
Shayne’s Insta hack is simple: When you get somewhere, start posting pictures and see who likes them. “Every once in awhile you come across a new person,” he says. “You click on their profile, ‘Oh, this person lives in Paris, works in fashion, loves coffee,’ you get an idea of their day-to-day, and then I’ll shoot a message, ‘Hey how’s it going, love all your pics,’ but not much more. Some take the bait, then it almost organically materializes, it’s coffee. I met a dancer at the Moulin Rouge through Instagram — but it turned into a little more, because he’s gorgeous, and we managed to stay friends ever since.
“It’s much more of a serendipitous process. Those people have stayed friends a lot longer than through the likes of Tinder.”
The best friendships, the best romances, and the best vacations all have a tendency to sneak up on you. Let the universe hand you something unexpected, and you may find that you wind up with all three on your next trip.