This article contains the information on How to Deal with Homesickness as a freshman.
Getting into college as a freshman will bring a lot of excitement because you will be meeting a lot of people and the happiness that you have actually moved into college, these come with a bit of sorrow that you will miss home, parents, food, pets e.t.c. College life comes with its own problems which vary with respect to each individual homes, problems like peer pressure, booing from colleagues or seniors, assignment and daily schedule of the task to be done which you are not accustomed to. These takes a lot of grind on each fresh collegiate who are known to be mummy or daddy pet unlike here in the college, this makes feel Homesickness in the early month of their stay in college.
What is homesickness?
According to the American Academy of Paediatrics, it defines “Homesickness in its most basic form as the feelings, reflections about the home which exist on varying degrees of comfort, care, affection and treatment. It occurs subconsciously in the mind when you come across treatment or in response to what you are thinking about. It is an indication you miss home in one way or the other (pet, bed, house, food etc) missing the usual irrespective of your new way of life. It is a normal human reflex action reacting to change in environment At its core, homesickness is a longing for the familiar.
How to deal with homesickness
1. It is a normal reflex action reacting to change in environment
The critical step to overcoming homesickness is to know that this issue is a reflex action that is normal, after some time you would get over it. Homesickness is common for all freshmen in colleges but the way people deal with it is different, some cry, others shy away from it by engaging in games or other activities. Homesickness is a developmental process of growing up, feeling of maturity (ability to move and work in any area without been troubled, moving into a city for job or advancement of career), it is a modification period which you must accept as normal. Conceding this will help you grow up and relieve you from homesickness
2. Relate with your new environment
The second method is to relate to your college’s campus and the surrounding area by walking around and exploring, either alone or with friends. Scope out secret study spots for when you get tired of the library, cool little cafes to grab lunch in when you’re running late and quiet spots to clear your head. The more you feel like your campus “belongs” to you, the more comfortable you’ll feel at college.
3. Carve out a niche for yourself at school
Rather than get disturbed with homesickness, engage in one activity or the other that would make you comfortable, relaxed and help with your academics in one way or the other, there are a lot of examples which are educational club and societies, drama group, volunteering agencies sports group etc.. They will fill up your nonacademic period and you can interact with friends, colleagues of similar interests.
If you have passion for sport, look out for a club or house in the sport and participate in it wholeheartedly and with the time you would recover from Homesickness
4. Link up with Home
Link up with home (your family, friends, food, pet). A call to parents. Siblings and other families will help to deal with homesickness because you will able to hear how they are busy doing, you can as well set up a conference call, skype or video call.
We live in a digital age where you can interact with people far away from you with video call on different applications, set up phone calls and visit schedule so you might be relieved of homesickness
If you live in the state, take a scheduled trip back home for holiday, weekend; for outsiders, you can do the same for a period of 1 week and for international students, schedule yourself within the Winter, Spring breaks to relax and refreshen up.
6. Have Parents / Friends Visit
In college, there is always a period for a visit. Ensure you pass the information to your parents, before the due time. There is a unique and important time as you will be able to meet them in person after spending some time away. These cannot be compared to a phone call or chatting on Facebook, hugs, home food and various treaties. Another is a friend’s visit. They could stay for a weekend or even just for a day but catching up with buddies is a lot of fun and a lot of relief. If they’re still in high school, you can spin it as an “unofficial college visit” and show them around town. Or if they attend a rival school, they could visit during the Big Game and offer some playful competition and smack-talk. Either way, double-check with your college’s visitor policies and your roommate before inviting them to stay the night.
7. Home Care Packages
There is nothing relieving like receiving something in the mail, a simple gift like Christmas card, mail from home, a pair of socks, a food pack with a handwritten note can also solve homesickness. These gifts have emotional ties that can relieve Homesickness, a gift bought by a parent in the college and sent to their kids still have emotional ties unlike just a random gift because they tend to bring memories of home that soothe Homesicklessness.
8. Reach to professionals/Religious colleagues on campus
Homesickness will make you lonely and fearful. You can overcome these by interacting and making friends with professionals or religious in college like the psychologist and pastors. Reach to them in a different angle either in support groups, seminars, a conference where you can talk to other people going through the same things as you. You don’t need to be shy about it but rather open up to relevant professionals in time before it starts affecting your productivity and results.
9. Stay Optimistic, it is only a matter of time
Moving away from home is a new stage in life which requires adjustment. Many college students don’t give themselves time to deal with this homesickness instead they injure themselves with emotions which could lead to depression. So, to avoid these, stay optimistic in whatsoever situation or difficult times because it will fade off with time and you are here for a purpose. Push away negative thoughts and keep going.
You must be wary of homesickness because it can lead and even trigger ailments which might affect your academics and your ego. The cure is for you to choose association wisely, open up to professionals. If you need to be helped, don’t keep it to yourself. Homesickness is feeling crampy about everything you have left at home. The solution is just a phone call and doing regular visits from time to time rather than thinking.